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"According to the FBI, there have been 129 confirmed white Christian terrorists in the last 20 years. That includes Timothy McVae, the uni-bomber, the Atlanta Olympics bomber and dozens of family planning centers and abortion clinics. Muslims? 19. Which would make white people the most likely demographic to commit a terrorist attack. So watch your mouth before you call me a terrorist or I’ll knock your fucking teeth out.”
Why do you keep dividing human with your disgusting ethnocentrism, how can you be proud of something you've been born with ? I don't care your skincolor, you shouldn't care about mine, we're all humans, and your love of your so called "culture" is one of the last thing, with religion, that keeps humanity down with division. A melting pot of culture is the best thing that can, and will happen to the planet Earth
Wow, it’s almost like you don’t fucking know what you’re talking about at all. It’s not like pride and proper representation in the face of destructive violent ideology like white supremacy pervading culture is a moral imperative.
But you’re right.
If we just ignore it, and embrace assholes like you, your racism will magically vanish away.
Whenever, someone like you claims ‘ethnocentricism’, I know it’s because you feel personally insulted that someone had the audacity to centralize PoC for once. ‘We’re all human’ only seeks to assuage the feelings of those society already considers human.
I know you’re a complete piece of shit: ‘so called “culture”’. Trying to delegitimize us all while trying to sell us your colourblind and white supremacist bullshit. You know what keeps humanity divided? Literal scum of the earth like you, who only see value in what they deem worthy. Your ideology is a disease that you continue to pervade to those around you. Make no mistake: hostility is the only thing you will get from me.
If you didn’t care about my skin colour, why would you have a problem with diversity, and pride in the face of adversity? Yeah, let’s have a straight pride parade.
Right, a ‘melting pot’ is ‘the best’ thing: because then everyone will be racially ambiguous and white-passing, bow and concede to your white supremacist standards, and no one will look overtly Black? Is that what you’re saying?
You disgusting fucking Nazi bigot. Take your gross assimilationist colonialism elsewhere, you fucking cracker.
but if you criticize social justice and online activism more than you criticize oppressive systems y o u a r e a t e r r i b l e h u m a n b e i n g
there is no “tumblr hivemind” tumblr does not “contradict itself” nor is tumblr “welcoming and accepting” tumblr is not a single person it’s a fuckton of people with different opinions. those two contradictory text posts by sj bloggers you saw today were made by *gasp* different people! it’s revolutionary, ain’t it?
I am a disabled woman.
I am pro choice.
But every time someone on MY side opens their mouths and tells stories about people aborting their disabled fetuses in order to show why we NEED abortion, I feel sick. I feel betrayed. I feel like my life isn’t worth considering."
By: Haseena M.
At least three friends had started using the Diva Cup and ever so emphatically advocated its benefits to me before I finally bought one last November. In addition to picking their brains about the logisitics of shoving a small silicon cup into your tunnel of love, I also did a lot of research and I considered myself prepared for the task at hand. I knew that it was supposed to be difficult at first. I had read that if I was getting frustrated with the insertion process I was to take a breath and take a break.
I was so excited to join the ranks of my fellow users who were no longer paying out monthly for tampons with fancy applicators or diaper-like pads. Not to mention I was eager to cut down my personal ecological footprint; I had even considered Luna Pads in my journey to a more eco-femnist period. Realisticlly though, I knew I would give up on something that required additional laundry. I, like many busy (read: lazy), people was looking for a win-win solution to the pains of the crimson tide.
When the moment came, there I was, Diva Cup in hand, sitting on the edge of the bed taking deep breaths and going over the included instruction manual. I headed into the bathroom and decided to try the C-Fold method in a crouching position. No luck. I took some deep breaths and decided to try the triangle fold, which creates a narrower tip to ease insertion. Still nothing. Now what? I did what anyone would do when faced with a mystifying physical response from the body: I jumped on the internet. Instead of WebMD, I found myself perusing forums where others had described their own, similar experiences with menstrual cups and having what they described as a “too small vagina” – What?!
I sat back and took a deep breath to digest this diagnosis – I had a small vagina. Reluctantly, I packed my DivaCup away in the lovely floral pouch it came with. What did this mean? Was I stuck using pads forever or was there a lesson to learn here? I recently read an older essay by Chloe Angyal for Salon about painful intercourse that made me consider again. I realized that I had had a similar if less intense experience.
Even before I became sexually active, I knew sex might hurt the first time. When my time came, I knew that it might suck a little bit and be painful, but that it would get better. This is what we’re told growing up, that you just have to lie back and think of the great sex life you’ll have one day (FYI: this is a myth). As soon as I could, I made sure I had an appointment with the doctor to get everything checked out. Like a proper and responsible young feminist, I wanted to stay on top of my sexual health, but when it came to inserting the speculum (the doodad that opens you up), I cringed and wiggled.
Feet in stirrups and knees in the air, I was shifting far too much for a successful examination. My doctor concluded that my hymen remained undisturbed, and that the cause of the pain I was experiencing. “Have more intercourse and come back to me,” she said. That was years ago, and I left thinking that this would be the best prescription I would ever get.
But things never got less painful. Fast forward to late last year, I realized that my hymen is probably not the problem.
So what is the solution for other women experiencing the same? Angyal describes methods of physical therapy she has tried and Toronto’s Good for Her, (which describes itself as “Toronto’s cozy, comfortable place where women and their admirers can find a variety of high quality sex toys, books, DVDs, workshops, sensual art, and much more”), sells a product called the Silicone Vaginal Exerciser which “is meant to assist women in overcoming vaginismus, aiding post-surgery stretching and relieving other conditions resulting in painful intercourse.” Founder Carlyle Jansen describes how to use this product in this video.
The most important thing is to talk about it. As Angyal explains, “The pressure to stay silent about pain for fear of being different, or even abnormal, is intense.” I personally have had my experiences of painful intercourse dismissed by girlfriends saying “well it’s always painful at first,” but if you’re experiencing painful discourse or anything that sounds like vaginismus or vulvonynia then don’t let patronizing comments like that dissuade you. Talk to your doctor (and don’t settle for the same advice a I got). Don’t remain silent and don’t be afraid to share your personal experience because there are options for you. This is your body and you should know it, own it, make it eco-friendly if want to and definitely get as much pleasure (and as little pain) from it as you want.
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when men dress up as women or white people wear hijabs or darken their skin in order to “see how hard it is,” they’re simply admitting that they believe those members of those groups are untrustworthy to the point that they can’t honestly relay the reality of their own experiences.
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